On running.

Running from the problem only ends in finding the same issue reincarnated in your next scenario. (SoL, 2017).



On helping.


“Our help is usually not very helpful.
Our help is often toxic.
Help is the sunny side of control.
Stop helping so much.
Don’t get your help and goodness all over everybody.

If it’s someone else’s problem, you probably don’t have the answer, anyway”.

– Anne Lamott.

On (not) being our job.

1. Whatever the work is, do it well—not for the boss but for yourself.

2. You make the job; it doesn’t make you.

3. Your real life is with us, your family.

4. You are not the work you do; you are the person you are.

I have worked for all sorts of people since then, geniuses and morons, quick-witted and dull, bighearted and narrow. I’ve had many kinds of jobs, but since that conversation with my father I have never considered the level of labor to be the measure of myself, and I have never placed the security of a job above the value of home. Toni Morrison, 2017 @The New Yorker.